How do I tell my husband I want a divorce, without feeling guilty?

Consider the possibility that if you stop allowing him to rely on you maybe he will be forced to do something on his own! Maybe the best thing you can do for him and your children (they should be proud of their father don't you think?) is to divorce him! Maybe he will grow up, get a license, get a job and get himself under control. A little self respect might do wonders for his anger issues!